How to Start Over If You’ve Lost Your Virginity
Secondary virginity is a decision to abstain from
sexual activity, starting with today and continuing until the day you get
married. It’s an opportunity to start over. Your physical virginity may
but virginity is more than just a physical state. It’s an attitude,
a frame of mind. It’s manifested in the
way you look at yourself and others.
Secondary virginity is a time to change bad habits
and heal past wounds. It allows you to clean and renew yourself prior to
Why do people choose Secondary Virginity?
Young adults say...
“I didn’t like being used.”
“We were so much into sex that we never became friends.”
“Just because I made a mistake doesn’t mean I have
to keep on making the same mistakes.”
“I’m going to wait because I have hurt a lot of people
as well as myself and I want to change my life for the best, for me and
for my future children.”
Five Steps to Becoming a Secondary Virgin
Make a firm commitment to save yourself for marriage from now on, and believe
you can do it. (Because you can!)
Get away from people, places, things and situations that weaken your self-control.
Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do is avoid people who tempt us.
Avoid intense hugging, passionate kissing and anything else that leads
to lustful thoughts and behavior. Anything beyond a brief, simple kiss
can quickly become dangerous.
Find non-physical ways to show your love and appreciation.
Remember that anyone can start over. Including you! When you focus
on commitment and self-discipline, you can control your impulses.