My story is painful to share, but I want you to know
what happened so you won’t get hurt like I did.
I was 23 and I had always planned on being a virgin when I got married. I dreamed of walking up the church
aisle wearing a white wedding dress as a sign of my purity and the
gift I would give to my husband. This was very important to me and it helped
me stay strong for a long time. If only I had persevered! Ultimately,
I gave in to pressure and found myself single, pregnant and worried
Telling my parents.
I’ll never forget the sick panic that overcame me.
I was afraid, ashamed and worried about my future. How
could I tell my parents? What would my relatives, friends
and people at church think?
While I was growing up, my parents did a good job
teaching me about the benefits of waiting and the risks
of premarital sex. But I allowed myself to get into a
situation where a young man continued to pressure me
to have sex.
After saying “no” for so long, I let my willpower
worn down and I gave in to pressures and emotions. The worst part of all was that I knew it was wrong. Still,
I gave up my virginity – and three weeks later I discovered
I was pregnant.
And I’m not the only one. Dozens of girls I know
work and church have also had sex before marriage. Many got
pregnant. Some became infected with venereal diseases. Others have
had abortions. I’ve seen it all first-hand. Almost everyone I know
who’s had premarital sex has a tragic story. That’s because sex before
marriage is full of ugly surprises, heavy price tags and life-long
Are you dating someone and wondering if you should
Take my advice, don’t do it! Wait till you get married. Otherwise you’ll
end up like me and my friends saying, “If I had only known.”
And waiting’s not so bad anyway. You can still have
an exciting life
with great relationships, fun times and real love – all without sex
before marriage. That’s why we’ve published this newspaper. We want
you to have the facts so you can make the best decisions possible for
yourself regarding sex, love and life.
True love waits
You see, love is about a lot more than sex, and sex
is about more
than pleasure and physical desires. Sex is about totally committed
love. It’s about bonding for life. It’s about babies and more. That’s
why you should save sex for the committed love of marriage. Many
kids realize this and they’re happy to be waiting.
Why are they waiting?
They’re saving sex as a wedding gift for that meaningful,
emotionally fulfilling – in essence, the ultimate – lifetime sexual
partner that they marry. Controversial? Yes, but you’ll find that waiting
for marriage is the best way to go. Read on and you’ll find numerous
testimonies from experts, celebrities and peers to prove it. Plus,
studies show that saving sex for marriage builds self-respect,
willpower, trust, strong communication skills and true love –
essential ingredients if you want to build a solid foundation for
a life-long marriage.
Broken hearts, diseases,
“But what if I don’t want to wait?” you might ask.
Stop and think
about the risks. Are you ready to live with the pain of a broken heart,
venereal diseases (STDs), or an unplanned pregnancy? Are you ready
to be a single parent, to get married, to place your child for adoption
or to live life knowing you aborted your tiny baby?
Heavy decisions, I know. My baby’s father and I
were not right for
each other, so marriage was out, and that was difficult. Abortion was
also out. It was never an option I would consider. My baby was alive
in my womb and she deserved a birthday. In the end I
decided it would be best for my child to grow up in a
home with two parents, so I placed my baby for adoption
with a loving family. It was a tough decision and it’s still
painful, but I know in my heart it was the right choice
for my precious daughter. I’m so glad she’s alive today!
Pregnant? Need help?
If you’re single and pregnant, let me make three
suggestions: 1. Take your time. Don’t rush or give in to
pressure. Learn about all your options. 2. Call the toll-free
counseling numbers on page 26. Caring help is
available right now.
3. Read the stories in this paper about women who’ve
had abortions. Most women regret abortions. In fact, when
Dr. David Reardon, Ph.D., surveyed 260 women who’d had
abortions, he found that:
94 percent had regrets about
28 percent attempted suicide
58 percent lost pleasure
63 percent had flashbacks
of their abortion
You can see the complete survey at:
Women (and men) have been hurt by abortion all across
country. Many have written us and asked us to print their personal
stories. We’ve included them on the pages that follow – along with
shocking confessions from former abortionists. Until you’ve read
about the emotional pain, the spiritual torment and the physical
injuries, it’s hard to understand just how devastating abortion really
And finally, we want to help you. If you want to
find true love and
save sex for marriage, if you’re pregnant and need help, or if you’re
suffering after an abortion, we’ve included excellent resources, toll-free
counseling numbers and web sites just for you. LoveMatters.com
wants you to have all the support, facts and tools you need to make
the best possible decisions in life.
I hope you enjoy reading our paper. Please share
it with your friends.
P.S. If you’re pregnant and need help, Care Net has wonderful
counselors to help you at the toll-free number below:
CARE Net: 1-800-395-HELP